It can seem as if you are in a twilight zone of sorts…a reality that is SO real but in fact is very separate from life in the physical world of people, human interaction and connection, shops with real-life shop windows, gourmet food, exercise, nature, human behaviour, deep soul-level emotions birthday parties, beaches and daily routines that anchor you in your specific corner of the world.
It is called the internet.
As a sole (and soul) entrepreneur who works almost exclusively online with my clients and students all over the world, it seems an important part of my own process to document my personal experiences and observations of my own relationship to the internet. In my work as a professional intuitive I speak and refer to ‘spiritual contracts’ a lot with my clients in helping them to gain a better understand of their key relationships. I have been realising that I’ve been going through a re-negotiation of the terms of my own contract with the collective consciousness and energy that is the internet and, as with any other contract, once it has been drawn up and signed I can then refer back to it in the future as need be!
I have included here some of the really important reasons why this re-negotiation of my contract with the internet is so necessary right now. I want to share them because I am sure they are relevant to some of you readers as well. My reason for wanting to share them is not because they are revelatory per say, but the curious thing is that your perspective, relationship to yourself, your body, the planet and the world becomes altered by the very fact that you are energetically ‘plugged in’ to the internet. And if you are like many of us today, that means 24 hours a day – via your smart phone, tablet, work computer and laptop or desktop at home – we won’t add in here the smart watches that some companies have recently released!
Note: This article is by no means meant to denounce the internet. As with most things, there are both light and dark sides to it. It aims to bring the readers attention to the pitfalls that exist around unmanaged internet usage and connectedness as a means of helping establish clearer, healthier boundaries with it. It is also meant to serve as an important reminder of the place of the internet in the context of consciously creating a well balanced life.
From my own personal experience and observations of friends, family members and colleagues over the years, here is what I have come to know beyond a shadow of a doubt and I suspect is true for millions of people all over the world;
1. The internet takes you OUT of your body and ability to create in the world
Excessive internet usage affects your self-affinity and level of connectedness with yourself on all levels – spiritual, mental, emotional and physical, it affects your ability to be a conscious creator in life’s creative flow. It doesn’t take a genius to figure out that if you are out of alignment with your true self, wisdom and needs and disconnected from your ‘tribe’, the people in real life who are like-minded and on the same page as you, creating new types of experiences that really speak to your soul and ever-greater levels of abundance, health and abundance in the physical world is going to be a challenge.
The energetic realm you enter when you set sail on the internet is one in which time stands still. Your mind literally enters a state of suspended animation and this translates into every aspect of your relationship with yourself, your body, others and the world. In other words, you enter a ‘holding space’ where it might seem like you are using your time productively but herein lies the trap…it is very difficult to translate information and the non-human vibrations of the cyber world into meaningful change in your outer life if you are not fully present to yourself and your external life.
2. It robs you of time
It eats away at vast chunks of time that often don’t benefit your well-being, financial prospects or emotional state. I am not referring to here focused research for a definite end result for which the internet is a powerful tool. I am talking here about merely passing the time, checking things out randomly without a focus or plan, nosing around to see what others are doing on Facebook etc. I have literally seen people spend hours on the internet, emerge from it with a hazy look on their face, take care of something that needed their attention on the physical, go through the motions of the task but sadly weren’t present – neither to themselves or the task at hand.
The truly worrying thing about this type of internet usage is that because the person is not aware of themselves in the situation – very much like use of a drug – it happens almost automatically that they re-create this pattern, day after day. It is so easy to move through your days in this energy and its corresponding head-space without being aware of what you are really achieving or the vast quantities of time that are passing you by.
3. It erodes the quality, vibrancy and intimacy of relationships with partners, friends, family and your wider community
Email and instant messaging are invaluable tools that connect us through space and time. There comes however a point at which over-reliance on electronic means of communication begins to undermine your connectedness and communication in real life. As a human being, there is simply no replacement for face to face interaction and human connection in your life. So much of the way in which you learn about yourself is through your real-life relationships…think of it…the sense of enjoyment and validation you get by spending time at a dinner party, playing a team sport, learning and collaborating with others in a classroom or at work exists because you are sharing yourself and BEING SEEN. The fact is that life can get unhappy, lonely and frustrating very quickly if you feel you aren’t really being seen, understood heard or held. Anything that proclaims to offer you that over the internet without human interaction ought to send up a red flag.
4. It takes you out of nature and the physical 3D world
Your connection to nature is so closely linked to your physical health, energetic, mental and emotional well-being. As part of nature yourself, your relationship with it encourages the flow of earth and cosmic frequencies of energy through your body. This affects your vibrance, vitality, mental faculties, motivation and energy levels in every area of your life. When you are plugged into the distinctive consciousness and energy of the internet and far away in cyberspace, you are not actually resident in your physical body. You are connected to it be means of an energetic cord, but for all intents and purposes you ‘are not home’. If you are not home to your body, neither are you present to your surroundings. You could find yourself in the most beautiful location and not notice it at all. There is no opportunity for the vibration of your physical body to re-align with the health-promoting benefits of powerful and wise mother earth.
5. It undermines your primary relationship – your self-affinity and self-love
Let’s face it…your relationship with yourself is your primary relationship. If it doesn’t work, it won’t be long until the cracks in your life begin to show. The interesting thing about the internet is that people often unwittingly use it to fill a void. The need to feel that you matter, and are connected and loved are instincts that drive each of us as human beings. The problem arises when you seek these things out over the internet where the notions of personal identity and emotion become very bendable. Interactions that promise to fill these voids and which emerge solely from the internet might appear and seem real but the very bendable nature of communication that emerges from cyberspace ensures that they do not speak – cannot in fact – speak to the REAL you.
For all the reasons mentioned above, you need human connection in order for the authentic you to be really seen. This is a basic human need for survival and one which we must be very clear, automated or electronic communication that has journeyed its way through fibre optic cables cannot provide on its own.
Unless you can switch the plugs around – unplug from the internet and plug into the storehouse of inbuilt wisdom and information within you first, you will continually be missing a crucial piece of the puzzle. Your ability to truly be present, appreciate, love and validate all of who you are in a real-life physical sense informs absolutely everything else in your life…the quality of your relationships, your quality of life, your health and well-being and your ability to set and achieve your goals in accordance with your own personal truth.
The internet has its place in helping you to achieve and sustain all of the above, but you must be aware of inadvertently allowing it to become your Source.