Have you ever met someone and just knew beyond all rational thinking that you know that person? And that far from being a relationship that you can recall within recent memory, it feels more like an indescribable recognition that plumbs the entire expanse of your body, being and soul?
There is no doubting that this type of soul-level recognition is something that occurs at least once for most of us over the course of our individual lifetimes. The instant familiarity combined with the intensity of emotion that often accompanies such encounters can reveal itself through both sexual as well as platonic relationships when they emerge.
It is a phenomenon I have seen many times in my work as an Intuitive Life Coach, and indeed, I have experienced it at least a few times in my personal life as well. There is an inherent aura of magic and mystery, as this connection, wrapped in juicy unconscious layers of imagery, emotions and interactions from the past, show up in present time.
Oftentimes, it can feel very much like an inner awakening that shakes you right to your core. It can be heady, exciting and jolt you out of a slumber making you feel like you have re-joined the land of the living – that you have only just ‘come alive’. Where things start getting a little more complicated however, is when you experience this rush of recognition and you open the gateway of your heart in anticipation of the truly earth-shattering, long-sought after sense of completeness and love that might possibly come next – except you discover that sadly, the other person just does not feel the same way – you are faced with the horrendous realisation that you are longing for a long lost but painfully unrequited love.
There are a few recurring themes that I notice for my clients when this kind of soul-level recognition comes up in their experience. Even though the recognition of the unspoken connection might be more pronounced for my client, there is usually at least some minimal kind of recognition on the part of the other person as well.
More often than not however, it quickly becomes apparent that reconciliation of the underlying reasons and corresponding ways in which my client experiences the connection can only take place at a level of self-awareness and understanding that unfortunately cannot and will not match the other person’s current life situation and needs.And it is no wonder considering that my work centres around helping my clients heal and connect into their REAL selves so they can become more self-actualised. It makes perfect sense that the other person would be at a very different place in their consciousness and journey of evolution and healing.
So it goes without saying that these types of soul to soul connections can be difficult to manoeuvre not least because the feelings, possibilities and expectations they evoke for at least one of you, can also feel enmeshed with a very primordial level of emotional and even, spiritual pain. This is the pain associated with etheric memories of past abandonment and feelings of being fundamentally unaccepted and unloved that not only wander through the corridors of your soul, but are the unconscious motivators that drive you to seek out and fulfill your most basic need to feel full, loved and complete.
It is also interesting that sometimes there is an accompanying sense of longing, loss for some vague unknown feeling of validation that can become a driving force that causes you to respond to the other person from a confusing, emotional place of expectation and demand, because you feel so strongly connected to the other person that you just cannot understand why they don’t feel the same way and how they could be anything but instinctively aware of your needs and love for them too.
In this way, the interaction or relationship invariably becomes skewed by the fleeting but nonetheless intense memories, images and emotions from times gone by rather than shaped from a place of balance and reason based on the reality of the individuals involved in present time.
I have seen relationships like these almost become a source of emotional torture. The longing and feeling of ‘incompleteness’ you inadvertently attach to the other person causes you to project onto the other person your ‘problems’ that you believe only they can solve.
And so, from years of personal experience and deep inner work with clients, here are four sometimes difficult but truly liberating truths I have come to know.

These are the 4 truths of soul to soul recognition:

1. Completion

Buying into the untruth that you somehow are ‘incomplete’ and needing to be ‘saved’ is a way of unwittingly absolving yourself of personal responsibility. This causes you to feel trapped and unable to navigate your own life while you sit in a place of intense emotional and spiritual pain. The underlying lesson here is that you are the only one who can save yourself. You can have the whole backing of the universe and others can show you the way, support you and hold your hand, but ultimately, only you can save yourself.
Not to diminish the intensity of your experience or to say that it does not contain embedded pain – but to be clear – your metaphoric and literal freedom from the experience and the pain lies in being able to see beyond its manifestation to the heart of the issue. No matter how imperfect you feel, the truth is that you ARE complete and whole just as you are. Self-validation and self-love are what will enable you to heal and release the pain that has gotten stimulated for you through this interaction, and cement your experience of the ‘completeness’ you seek.

2. Healing

It can be ironic that the person you feel this intense, emotionally charged soul-level connection with often comes bearing the precise healing gift you need. For the most part, you are disconnected from the interactions and soul-level decisions that were made on the other side of the veil – before you incarnated in this lifetime. You ‘forget’ about the true depth and magnitude of your connection with the other person’s soul and about the possibility that even though you are not destined to be together in this lifetime, that there is actually a much deeper connection that has its basis in pure Spiritual love.
This is the pool of universal love that heals and soothes all worries and pains and that if you surrender to it will actually lead you to find completeness within yourself. Your soul-level buddy from another time is actually being used as a messenger from the universal pool of love. As a direct result of the deeply spiritual, unspoken nature of your connection across eons of time, he or she agreed not to ‘rescue’, ‘save’, heal or complete you in this lifetime – but to act as the trigger to help you learn to do this for yourself.

3. Agreement

This bigger picture view of soul-level agreements such as this can be admittedly difficult to embrace when you are stuck in the real-life, real-time experience and question of WHY? Why me? Why not? Why can’t he or she just SEE me? Why can’t he or she simply LOVE me? Why doesn’t he or she realise that we are meant to be together?! Why is he or she putting me through so much pain?! As far as these types of soul to soul connections go, and the resulting feeling of un-requited love, when you surrender to these feelings of heartbreak, loneliness and despair, you relinquish your power and ability to truly blossom.

4. Determination

Once you have realised that no amount of wishing, wanting or hoping that things could be different will change your situation, there comes a point where you need to seriously consider your options. At this point, there are two clear routes. The first is down the continued road of painful ‘stuckness’ while you pine for and await your unrequited love. The second becomes available only after you have decided that you are going to take your fate into your own hands and determine that you are going to become more of your best self. Being able to make this decision enables you draw a line in the sand so you can take the second route down the road less traveled back to your complete self – that which requires you to consistently extend gestures of love and appreciation towards yourself, who you really ARE and your beauty, wisdom and gifts that on your deepest levels you have been wanting to know and experience all along.

Are you DONE with feeling unloved, invalidated and unseen?

Are you READY to take your happiness and well-being into your own hands?

If you know you would benefit from expert guidance and support in staying clear and true to yourself, book yourself in to my calendar for a 10 minute no-obligation chat to talk about what this would look like for you. 


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    D. M. Lane, Bristol, UK
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    This article was amazing. Thank you for sharing this to the world. I just went through a situation very similar with the same feelings and actions. But I learned what I needed to, and reading this article just really gave me life and inspiration to keep going.

    D. R. Mycka, Orlando, FL, USA
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    J. Davidson, Christ Church, NZ
  •      Talking with Caroline was such a breath of fresh air…I could sense that she really got it … she just got me. She understood me on a deep energetic level. I just knew that she would be there for me…as she has been…there with me through the trenches of my own transformation.

    W. K. Glenn, Viroqua, WI, USA
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    C. A. Francois, Trinidad, WI
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    N. Duckworth, Melbourne, Australia
  •      I feel so blessed to have Caroline as a spiritual mentor.  Participation in the Creativity and Manifestation Level 1 course has given me the tools to connect even deeper with my authentic self than I thought possible. The program really helps you clear your mindset so that you know what you deeply, truly want for your best life.

    D. Lifschutz, Woodmere, NY, USA
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    J. Davidson, Christ Church, NZ
  •      Caroline is a gem.  She has the uncanny ability to be gentle and strong as she leads you to light bulb moments. C&M L1 has helped me to go back and lay a stronger foundation to build the rest of my life upon.  I’ve been given the tools to become more accomplished in business and in my personal life.

    L. Armstrong, Baton Rouge, LA, USA
  •      My time with Caroline has not just been life supporting and life changing but probably (at the risk of overstating/sounding dramatic) life saving. I can’t imagine where I might have ended up if I had not done the work with her.

    C. A. Francois, Trinidad, WI
  •      Caroline stands with you and shows you these deep painful pictures that you hold in your being, that you think define you and she sits with you while you process self-betrayal, lack of love and validation, incompleteness. Then she pushes you to move on, to leave behind what no longer serves you, what you grasped at in a futile attempt to complete or validate yourself.

    N. S. Gomes, Trinidad, WI
  •     Working with Caroline over the past 8 months has been extremely enlightening and rewarding. She guided me into experiencing myself as a beautiful spirit, I can recognise the fog right away and with her help can use the tools she has taught me to return to the way of being where I am happier and more appreciative of myself.

    G. Kuruvilla, Trinidad, WI
  •     A gifted Intuitive Healer and Clairvoyant, Caroline has helped me return to my life-path during my private coaching sessions with her….Defined goals were changed as new insights came up.  During the process core healing and in-depth transformation took place; my own ability to help myself has improved.  I am very grateful for her very timely and effective work.

    E. Warner, Silver Springs, MD, USA
  •     Thank you for your patience, and your incredible, magical wisdom and clarity guiding me as I navigate these passages. Pure awesomeness. I honestly don’t know how I would have made it onwards this year without you.

    C. Francois, Trinidad, WI
  •     Caroline helped navigate me step by step and she never made me feel alone, yet still, she gave me wings to fly by myself, free from my bondage within.  I am a new person and even though I may look the same, sound the same, the inner transformation is mind blowing, I have begun to live the life in the space I’ve wanted to for so long.

    L. Rollock, Toronto, Canada
  •     Caroline is a very professional teacher who cares deeply about supporting her students as they align authentically with their spirit, develop their intuition and create their best life. She is equally skilled in the classroom teaching in groups as in her intensive one to one mentoring work with private clients…It is gratifying to know that she is helping and empowering so many people to fully integrate their soul purpose and inner voice into their daily lives, work and relationships.

    F. M. Sheppard, Director, Academy of Clairvoyance & Consciousness
  •     Caroline comes into your life at the divine moment in which you have been meant to receive such a blessing! For me, I knew I had to contact her after reading one of her many profound and insightful articles. Caroline is the most intuitive person I have met and there is nowhere to hide from yourself when you have met Caroline! She reads you like a book and that is part of her magic and her blessing to your life’s journey and growth!

    M. Francesci, Toronto, Canada
  •     Caroline’s insights are deep and thorough.  She reaches to the origin of our problems and shows the ways to resolve them. She is able to take you down to your emotions which works as catharsis readying you to introduce changes in your life. I recommend Caroline to everyone who wants to improve life and take responsibility for it.

    M. Zimnicka, Poland
  •     You just know that something is troubling you, and you don’t know what it is. Caroline has the gift of seeing the energy patterns from where, and from when, these emotions have emerged. Revealed at last, this knowledge can help you to understand what is happening, and understanding is the beginning of compassion. Compassion for your own self. And that is the beginning of healing.

    G. A. Gomes, San Jose, CA, USA
  •     Well, I for one didn’t believe! But I feel now that I can move stuff – really old stuck stuff – because of the process.. It’s the combo of you and your insights and guidance and how you have structured things.

    C. A. Francois, Trinidad, WI
  •     Caroline has this down to earth way of just bringing to light the things we have trouble seeing through her intuitive work.  I always feel a sense of spiritual connection, a sort of motherly love unfailing feeling,  like I could say anything without being judged or reprimanded, it’s a place of constant understanding.

    L. Rollock, Toronto, Canada
  •     Caroline starts you on this journey, she helps you to clear the issues that you now have the power and will to deal with, she helps you to build the life you choose for yourself, this inner self that is a hidden treasure she gave you the map to discover.

    N. S. Gomes, Trinidad, WI
  •     I have experienced tremendous inner growth where I’m able to recognize and appreciate my own self worth.  I am more than enough.  I am kind to my body as I nourish it in a healthier way.

    L. Armstrong, Baton Rouge, LA, USA
  •     She championed me and believed in me way more than I could. She held big spaces for me to fill in and has often stopped me from going further into painful situations even when I wanted to with all my heart. She helped me free myself and made me bolder than I have ever been in facing life. She saw what was there, all my buried potential, and gave me the hope and the confidence to go after it even when I couldn’t even imagine the way ahead, far less see it.

    C. A. Francois, Trinidad, WI
  •     In Buddhism the lotus is known to be associated with purity, spiritual awakening and faithfulness, it is a beautiful flower that sits upon murky ponds, you help people find all these things and help us surface out of our murky ponds and bring out the beautiful lotus flower in all of us! oxo

    C. Hamel-Smith, Perth, Australia
  •     There are no expectations, or judgements, or conditions with Caroline. In my experience, and humble opinion, Caroline Diana Bobart is an oracle in the truest meaning of that word.

    G. A. Gomes, San Jose, CA, USA
  •     Caroline has helped me not only within myself but with my relationships with others. She is a natural healer and can see what we need for ourselves before asking the questions.

    L. Rollock, Toronto, Canada
  •     I treasure my time with Caroline, she holds a safe space for me to go within and meet my true self…Unfortunately the journey of discovery is messy, scary, painful, full of anger and disappointment whilst the forever supportive Universe constantly sends experiences that help you to grow and break the old patterns.  Caroline is the anchor in this muddy messy place.

    N. S. Gomes, Trinidad, WI
  •     Sometimes the mind can get cloudy; you become so wrapped up and trapped in its many convolutions, that you find yourself not even knowing where the hell you are. Or worse, even ‘who’ you are, and your true location and trajectory in the grand scheme of your life experience. Caroline’s inner work helps to open a window through the clouds; it helps you to hear and see through the mind’s sometimes deafening and blinding chatter. She can bring clarity to your life situation.

    G. A. Gomes, San Jose, CA
  •     She championed me and believed in me way more than I could. She held big spaces for me to fill in and has often stopped me from going further into painful situations even when I wanted to with all my heart. She helped me free myself and made me bolder than I have ever been in facing life. She saw what was there, all my buried potential, and gave me the hope and the confidence to go after it even when I couldn’t even imagine the way ahead, far less see it.

    C. A. Francois, Trinidad, WI
  •     Caroline has truly been such a blessing to my life beyond what words can describe and I feel like I just met her! Not only is she one of the most intuitive and downright loving individuals that I’ve ever met but she might even be the most grounded as well … which is a rare combo in my experience.

    W. K. Glenn, Viroqua, WI, USA
  •     Throughout the process, the freedom, the power, the awareness, the adventure, your truth, your being, start to rise and there is no going back, no way you can ‘unsee’ you.

    You honour your ‘soldier’ that has kept you safe in your journey to your knowing of your true self and you retire ‘the soldier’. You begin to celebrate you, you stand in awe that this powerful, joyful being is you and what stretches ahead of you is getting to know yourself.

    N. S. Gomes, Trinidad, WI
  •     I am 56 years old and had always been a pretty upbeat and positive person. However, recently I had become quite negative and stuck in self-judgment and feeling like I had no direction to my life.
    Since I have begun…I have made significant forward movement and released a huge amount of old beliefs that have held me back and kept me stuck in feeling negative and sorry for myself.  I have released things like anger, resentment, jealousy, envy and patterns that I was not even aware I had until Caroline pointed them out and helped me see them.

    C. Freiwald, Golden, CO, USA
  •     It’s the combo of you and your insights and guidance and how you have structured things, and then the people in the group itself, and then of course the hand of spirit underneath it all working with me in ways I still don’t fully appreciate…until it kind of jumps out at me to reveal something.

    All of that translates to feeling supported compared to the vacuum from which I was trying to shift things. It’s so subtle and gentle…fast moving but you can’t tell…just like light is.

    C. A. Francois, Trinidad, WI
  •     Caroline has an incredible gift…She was very gentle, kind, and humorous at times which I loved, but really direct and ‘to the point’ also.  She gave me exactly the right amount of information for me to process. It was clear to me that Caroline was really tapping into my energy, with incredible observations of exactly how I feel in the moment and in the past; she showed me what I need to do to grow further, and to flourish.

    J. Legge, North Wales, UK
  •     From my very first consultation with Caroline, I felt the comfort and warmth one feels when spending time with a dear friend; but not a ‘friend’ in the popular sense of the word. I mean a friend you may have never met before, but who somehow knows YOU, and sees YOU in a way no one else can; far deeper than you can see yourself. She reads the energy patterns that emanate from you; energy patterns that your thinking mind, so busy yapping on and on with itself, knows absolutely nothing about.

    G. A. Gomes, San Jose, CA, USA
  • In my experience, working with Caroline is simple and safe. She explains and talks in a clear grounded and down to earth way. Importantly, she takes the lead from her client, so that has allowed me to be in control, to come to my own understandings and realisations.
    She has great insight and intuition and can guide without interfering. The more I am ‘safe’ is the more I can trust and relax and be open to myself… and have the courage to see what I have been too scared to see.

    J. Duprey, Nailsworth, England, UK
  •     Caroline is so approachable, calm and easy to work with.  I never feel judged.  I feel I’m able to open up and say what I need to say without feeling silly or ridiculous.  I’ve had times during these past few months where I needed that extra support.  I found the courage to ask for it and I got it.  Caroline is so insightful and hits the nail on the head with things I struggle to explain or understand, she has a way with words that makes sense out of the things I’m struggling with.  She seems to get what I’m trying to say….so understanding and intuitive.  Even though this is very serious work there is humour too which just helps lighten a situation I’m struggling with, without Caroline being dismissive.

    M. O’Sullivan, Chepstow, Wales, UK
  • Before now, I have not felt that I have had the ‘right’ to have a sense of ‘self’ that is not entwined with others. I am now beginning to feel that I ‘deserve’ to take my space, be my size … instead of minimising myself and fitting in, pleasing….
    Most essential to all of this having a regular/daily practices…This is key for helping me begin to know and trust my own energy and myself – and to  be able to listen and to express more authentically from my centre.
    I feel more solid and true…

    J. Duprey, Nailsworth, England, UK
  •     I would tell others that if they are interested in a truly high level of healing, releasing and growth in their inner world and outer manifestations this is the best possible program!  I have done many workshops and programs and read tons of books on how to remove negative beliefs and patterning.  This program actually delivers in such a huge way that I can’t even compare it to any other program I have been in or book I have read.

    Caroline is incredibly intuitive, supportive and insightful.  She has this way of seeing and getting right to the issue that you may not ever have even considered and then it’s like ‘Oh, wow!  She’s so right on!  I see it now.’

    C. Freiwald, Golden, CO, USA
  •     I have been able to shift a lot of stuck energy by having the courage to face and acknowledge past hurts, although this was and is extremely difficult for me, with Caroline’s guidance and support I am able to work through it.  Lots of tears and journaling – but once you get past that hump it’s amazing, the self-awareness and revelations experienced – the insight into what was holding me back – it’s hard to put into words but it has changed me in so many ways…I’m confident that whatever comes up next I will have that support, which is key to me moving through this.

    M. O’Sullivan, Chepstow, Wales, UK
  •     There is always a reason for everything and understanding the unknown or dormant parts of you is the key to your spiritual growth. Caroline is a great master at helping you on your road to better understanding yourself.

    D. Dokmanovic, London, UK